Obama shares advice on finding ‘the one’

Obama shares advice on finding ‘the one’

This is what #relationshipgoals are made of.

In the new book “Yes We (Still) Can,” former White House Senior Advisor Dan Pfeiffer revealed details of the chat he and the then-President Barack Obama shared on his last day of work in 2015. Pfeiffer and Obama were delving deep into Dan’s plans for life post-White House — the first step of which would be moving in with then-girlfriend Howli Ledbetter.

Pfeiffer told Obama he believed Howli was “the one” and the president offered up the same advice he apparently gives everyone about marriage – the three questions you need to ask yourself when it comes to your potential spouse.

Putting the awkwardness of a love-life conversation with your boss aside, we hope Pfeiffer listened up and listened good – because there’s no way Obama could have hooked Michelle without having some solid grey matter upstairs.

1. Are they interesting?

“Is she someone you find interesting?” was the first question Obama asked Pfeiffer. Seems obvious but after spending 25 years day in, day out with someone (when their looks are gone and you’ve heard all their damn stories), we imagine it’s something we should think more realistically about. Obama says this matters because “you will spend more time with this person than anyone else for the rest of your life and there is nothing more important than always wanting to hear what she has to say about things.” As we suspected, boyfriend doesn’t make a move without Michelle’s say-so.

2. Are they funny?

“Does she make you laugh?” Well, this one’s an absolute no-brainer. Once that honeymoon phase is over, all those laughs you had to fake in the beginning will become your undoing.

3. Will they be a good parent?

“I don’t know if you want kids, but if you do, do you think she will be a good mom?” The inevitable question about the future every couple needs to work through at some point — do you want kids…and if so, do you want kids with this person you’ve only seen once since sucking face with them at the bar?

Yup, some of us out here might not ever want children, but it’s the meaning behind the final question that’s important. It’s a question about where the two of you want to end up after the getting-to-know-you process is over… love-pro Barack sums it up best when he tells Pfeiffer “Life is long. These are the things that really matter over the long term.”

So what was Pfeiffer’s response? “Howli is incredibly interesting and funnier than I am and will be a phenomenal mom.” Obviously, Obama’s advice worked, with the two crazy kids getting hitched a year later. Given that Pfeiffer and Howli are still happily married (not to mention Barack and Michelle racked up their 25th wedding anniversary last year) – it looks like Obama might actually know what he’s talking about.

Believe it or not, that’s not the only political love-match that sprouted during Obama’s tenure. Pfeiffer also notes in his book that he went to three other weddings of couples who met while working at the White House and went on to say “Obama was always very proud of the hundreds of relationships that had sprung from his campaigns and his administration.”

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