16 “Each Partner Should Do Their Fair Share”
It’s tempting to split household and emotional “duties” evenly in a relationship or marriage, but getting too far into the nitty gritty of ensuring everything is equal can cause more trouble than it’s worth.
“Whether it’s the emotional work of a relationship or those awful chores, no couple can split them fairly,” Newbold says. “And there’s no reason to. People in love give generously, not because they’re told to, but because it feels good. But it only feels good if you’re giving what you feel good about giving and tackling the work that matters to you. So stop focusing on who does what. Why? Less resentment, more gratitude, more happiness, more spontaneous affection.”
